Embracing Grief During the Holidays

Posted on November 11, 2021 by Rev. Pam Reidy under grief, loss, mourning

The holidays can certainly be stressful. There’s the shopping, the heightened expectations of family and traditions, and the incessant Hallmark movies depicting an unreal world in which the main character has a mediocre life, a crisis, and a magical, picture-perfect ending. Alas, we are not characters in a Hallmark movie and when we have experienced a deep loss, much to our dismay, the holidays still come around, often without a magical ending.

The intensity of grief is heightened during the holidays, manifesting as a tumultuous moment or general chaos, created by a never ending to-do-list, without the will and energy to accomplish it. The grieving heart lives with an unspoken desire to return to normal, and can react strongly to the misguided advice of others who counsel that “he would want you to be happy” or “this Christmas will be hard, but you can get through it!” The truth is amidst your pain, you deserve some comfort and joy and incorporating the emotions of your grief into your choices, activities and traditions is possible. Another truth: It isn’t healthy or possible to ignore either your pain or the holidays.

At this Saturday’s seminar, we will explore ways to embrace your grief during the holidays. We will discuss strategies, reflect on poems, and consider practical ways to walk with your grief while all the world seems to be rejoicing and you feel broken, sad and alone.

Please join us for